So about a week ago, I was looking up information on daddy issues and the effects of having an absent father. One of those effects that I happened to read at one point was, "it will make the girl grow up to be more independent."
That insulted me tremendously. Among all the dysfunctional traits that having a father can result in, someone decided to add, "Oh hai, they'll be independent too!" Like it's the only important thing that a child can accomplish.
An absent father is not a good thing. Not a fucking good thing in the least. The consequences can be catastrophic, depending on who you are, and I'll wager that your independence would have grown in whether you had both parents or not.
Who ever thought that having a father would stunt a child's maturity? If anything, I think having a good and loving father in my life would have helped my social and personal growth, as well as inner strength. Independence means nothing to me if I'm going to go about it with a hole in my heart and tears lying in wait behind my eyes.